FEYT: Festive End of Year Trauma (and what you can do about it)

Ah, the merry prancing of little reindeer hooves! The lighting of the menorah! The parties, the food, the music (not the “I saw mommy kissing Santa Clause,” necessarily, but maybe some upbeat Gregorian chants, the Etta James version of a tune, some of the more traditional stuff), and the lights! In this season of the… Continue Reading FEYT: Festive End of Year Trauma (and what you can do about it)

Prepping for the Holidays…Never Too Soon to Check Your Fantasies at the Door!

How does this happen!? The holidays are here again, with family (expectations) and feasting (that is never on your diet) and gift-giving (that is always expensive and never satisfying to the recipient). The ending of the year, regardless of your religious background, is rich with meaning. It is the omega of this year, just before… Continue Reading Prepping for the Holidays…Never Too Soon to Check Your Fantasies at the Door!

Pain as my teacher

Stephen Gaskin, cofounder years ago of a commune in Tennessee called The Farm, once said the degree to which one is enlightened is revealed by what one says when one hits one’s thumb with a hammer. Metaphorically, even literally, that hammer threatens all of us: divorce, termination of employment, violence, illness, and a host of… Continue Reading Pain as my teacher