An exploration of shame’s opposite, pride, and its healing effects for the body as well as the mind Continue Reading Simply Pride
Be Easy on Yourself – Releasing Shame through Imperfection
In the 50’s, the prevailing belief concerning crying infants was that, if you picked them up whenever they cried, you’d be spoiling them, teaching them to complain in order to get their needs met. The results? Adults all too often incapable of soothing themselves without chemical dependency or distraction. Adults resistant to asking for help,… Continue Reading Be Easy on Yourself – Releasing Shame through Imperfection
Shame Part 2: Psychological Perfectionism
Inappropriate… Don’t you love the word? It says everything and nothing. Of course, we therapists love to weigh in on our own versions of what’s appropriate – what’s acceptable to thought or behavior. As far as I’m concerned, it’s a dirty word, used far more in our profession to hurt, to shame, then to help.… Continue Reading Shame Part 2: Psychological Perfectionism
Identifying and Releasing Shame
Shame on you. Wow. Just notice how those three little words can ruin a good day. Feel them in your body, and observe how your physical self cringes. And yet, for every external message of shame we receive, how many more do we deliver to ourselves? In order to heal our shame, we must understand… Continue Reading Identifying and Releasing Shame
Shame on you.
Shame on you. Wow. Just notice how those three little words can ruin a good day. Feel them in your body, and observe how your physical self cringes. And yet, for every external message of shame we receive, how many more do we deliver to ourselves? In order to heal our shame, we must understand… Continue Reading Shame on you.
Bodywork Therapy
I was, and still am by licensure, a massage therapist, as well as a licensed clinical social worker. Initially, it was a good way of getting through school, but as I worked with my massage clients, I began to realize that I was picking up on more than just the physical manifestations of their distress.… Continue Reading Bodywork Therapy
Why Choose Bodywork Therapy?
Why Bodywork? Imagine, before you, a frozen lake. Middle of winter, not a ray of direct sunlight in sight. Depression can be like this. Thirty years ago, give or take, the standard treatment was to identify the beliefs that froze our inner emotional waters, and in countering the “I’m powerless, unlovable, incapable” voices that held… Continue Reading Why Choose Bodywork Therapy?
Now More Than Ever
Every time a new client walks into my office, I am aware of the tremendous courage it took for many of them to overcome the shame of needing to ask for help with their distress. I value the work I do, and cherish the portion of the path I get to share with my clients… Continue Reading Now More Than Ever
Holiday Fantasies
This is not a love story about the value of family. This journal entry is instead dedicated to all those scorched souls out there who are still recovering from being with family and finding out that they’re no better this year than last. Especially those who are kicking themselves for knowing better, and falling victim… Continue Reading Holiday Fantasies
Changing: The Promise of Neuroplasticity
Changing In my work with teens, I’ve met with a number of sullen, angry faces, seemingly impermeable to any effort on the part of an adult to reach them. Then I tell them this story, and sometimes, SOMETIMES, a little light shows through. The story is this: A man was walking along the beach when… Continue Reading Changing: The Promise of Neuroplasticity