Money Series

Can Money Be Addictive, and If So, Is That a Bad Thing?

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Can Money Be Addictive, and If So, Is That a Bad Thing?

Can money be addictive, and if so, is that really a bad thing? One might say that, like people who compulsively exercise, addiction to money has significant practical benefits. Keeping one’s focus on the bottom line and delaying gratification in order to create a more secure future is terrific…in balance. But are we always talking about addiction when we talk about a strong, healthy money awareness? What’s the difference? Choice. In the minds of many of my clients, a valuable consideration becomes an obsessive knee-jerk reaction to money. When they fear being without money, it is not...

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Money Trauma: How Growing Up Without Effects Our Relationship With Money Now

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Money Trauma: How Growing Up Without Effects Our Relationship With Money Now

Poverty … is money trauma. Unlike that which we usually identify with trauma – poor parenting, a car accident, a violent attack – faceless institutions are almost always in the mix. Whether it’s the rogues of Wall Street and the banking system, the callous bureaucrats of various governments, or administrators at the VA, a faceless and careless entity is at the other end of the impoverished one’s need. Not want. Need. That trauma shows up in my office, among those who rationally know they have plenty, but are constantly driven by a sense of never having enough. By those who are...

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There is no Magic in Money (Pt. 2): Using “the Ladder” to Make Money Work for You

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There is no Magic in Money (Pt. 2): Using “the Ladder” to Make Money Work for You

What has this to do with you and your bank account? Plenty. Remember that exercise I had you do a couple of blogs ago? The one where you sat with actual currency, and noticed what thoughts and feelings came up. One of those beliefs may have been, if only I had more of this I could….take a vacation, eat out more, get some new clothes, go to that training. While some things DO require money, I’m amazed when I look at my clients’ spending habits, including those who experience themselves as being underfunded, and what they blow their money on in an unquenchable desire to feel better. A...

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There is no Magic in Money

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There is no Magic in Money

There is no magic in money. Regardless of whether you hold to the Secret, and the myriad ways of manifesting it, money intrinsically does not have magical capabilities. It can’t of itself cheat death, make the IRS disappear, or arouse love in others. It cannot even solve poverty, although intuitively, that seems to be what money should be able to do. As a social worker with some real-world professional experience in two states, Texas and Colorado, and having lived in five, some of those years being poor myself, I’ve seen the ineffectiveness of the money lead. That is, the knee-jerk...

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Learning — and unlearning — money lessons from childhood

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Learning — and unlearning —  money lessons from childhood

Courtesy of Amy Berk, Financial Adviser, Ameriprise If you suddenly received a windfall, would you take a trip around the world? Buy a luxury car? Save it for retirement? Surprise! Your answer may be greatly influenced by your parents and grandparents. Experts say how we handle money and what it means to us has a lot to do with how you were raised. “Each person has a family history when it comes to money that’s rooted in generations of experience,” says Lori Sackler, CPA, CFP, CIMA and author of The M word: The money talk every family needs to have about wealth and their...

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Is Money Really the Root of All Evil?

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Is Money Really the Root of All Evil?

When I consider “dirty money,” and how we may carry a secret disgust around currency, I think of Sheik Sidi. This wise old Sufi teacher once warned me, “Don’t squash the levels.” He was addressing the struggle many humans face: we may strive to be sacred, to live in more peaceful communion with others, to be fully present…and yet, at the same time, we must also plan for the future, learn from the past, and address the aggravating details of everyday life. When we squash the levels, we apply one set of expectations to a realm that cannot possibly meet them. I may want to live in...

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